How does one respond to friends who do not understand not wanting to talk, to socialize after having lost a husband? Mine passed away less than a year ago, so emotionally, it's felt somewhat like a roller coaster ride. I've also had to deal with some health issues, so getting ready for, and going to work full time has been taking up all available energy and time. I am tired of explaining and repeating myself. Short of blowing my stack or avoiding all calls, are there any other ways to handle this?

mg,
Please accept my condolences on your loss. My own husband died last August. I imagine that you still grieve privetely, in your own way, and that is perfectly all right. And because you are working, you are not isolating yourself.

The next time a well-meaning offer to talk comes along, and you are not yet willing, politely, but firmly tell them that it is very kind of them, but you really are not ready to talk of your loss. It is very private to you and you want to keep it that way for awhile. Then change the subject.