Due to popular demand, we have added this new forum especially for caregivers who have moved one from their role. This is a place for you to helpe ahc other deal with the changes in your life and to discuss the meaning of caregiving to you.

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for a friend who is asking if there is Life After Caregiving.

I know you wonderful folks will be able to help her

Thx, katclaws

Lost/Autumn --

BJ is right! I go all OVER this board. There is a smile or a tear or advice .... in every room. All the doors are wide open!! THAT'S WHAT MAKES US FAMILY!!!

Janie

Lost, you are free to visit anywhere you'd like or park somewhere for a while, whichever fits you on any given day. Look at Janie - she goes EVERYWHERE! She's welcome to do so - and so are you. So join in the topics anywhere you'd like, or start one of your own. Your input is very welcome. We never know when something we say may help someone, encourage them, or lighten their day.
BJ

duh warning pc illiterate about to enter this room i now am a former caregiver since my mil was paced dec 5th 01 is it ok for me to be going into spousel caregivers room, i have been unkowingly and made friends there. any tips on message board ettiquette for dummies like me? i am slowly exploring this place and i have been posting anywhere and everywhere in my great unknowing i am lost tee hee

No, Miss Vicki - I didn't send a card either.

BUT - last I heard, a big dump truck was parked out in front of his house at 3:00 am. Part of the company's name on the side of the truck was obscured from view. According to a couple of eyewitnesses, the part they "could" see was something like "s$#% & Shinola Home Delivery."

Very funny Janie. I don't think I'll be sending Brother Dearest a card anytime soon. How about you?

How are things in your world? I hope things are calmer now. Please remember to take care of yourself as well as Bill and Elsa.

Vicki

Hello Sugarlips,

Someone told me to pop in here and say hello right backatcha!

By the way, yesterday was my brother's birthday. I hope y'all remembered to send him a card.

Janie

Hi "Secret Poster"

Nice to have you with us. Tell Janie I said hello.


Vicki

If loving you is wrong - I don't wanna be right!


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"secret poster" (so i don't get blamed for something i didn't DO!)

u r not alone isn't this the greatest group of people, such an honor to be a part of this. the silver lining in all this crap huh!!! hope you have a good day janie, hugs and prayers.

Janie >>>>>





(Slept like a baby last night - finally)

Much love and thanks to all of you - my wonderful friends!

Janie

janie sooo happy 4 u!! and may u r sooo funny ilove u!! u r great!!! now i can sleep tonite. who asked for world peace?

Janie...Good news...I was happy to hear that you finally got a chance to talk to him....

Janie,
I'm so happy you and your son are in a better place now. I know how hard it was for you to go through this with him. I hope things continue to improve for both of you.

Vicki

Janie

I'm so glad you've made some forward progress in resolving the difficulties with your son and his wife.

You are all so right, it is hard to watch our children being hurt, victimized and disrespected. And so often, all we can do is be there to support them, we cannot change what is happening to them.

Our children do not always make wise choices, but then, we were perhaps just as foolish at their age.

Janie, good luck and Godspeed as you work on these family ties.

Lorraine

Lost, you are so smart.I see we have read some of the same books.

yOU HAVE REALLY TAKEN THE BALL AND RUN WITH IT.Remember your first post!Well take a look at you now.All your experiences are are enlightening to others.Also you are a real cheer leader to all.You go girl!!!!

Janie, so glad you were able to speak with son.For both of you to say I love you is great.

You know it will be hard to bite your tongue. We cannot always protect our loved ones from the hurt and pain they will experience in life.I did it when my kids were little and If I did not stop and think would do it for my grand children.My kids could tell you stories of my actions when I knew they were about to be hurt.When they hurt we feel their pain.The main thing is your son knows how much you care by your determination .As my daughter tells me, put a zipper on. So what happens , smoke begins to come out my nose and ears.!!!!

Dear "lost" -- You and the others are so sweet to worry about me. I have gotten wonderful advice! And, guess what! I have some good news.

(They don't call us Tauruses "stubborn" for nothing! ) I called my son's cell phone once again this morning and THIS time he answered!! I was so relieved. Guess he figured he'd better talk to me 'cause I wasn't giving up on him. I told him I loved him; he said, "I love you, too, Mom and I'm sorry about last Friday."

Regarding the "sharing of feelings", I am now going to just focus on my son and keep my feelings about my DIL to myself. I feel I have my son back and that's all that matters.

I am happy and relieved, once again. (But still keeping my fingers and toes crossed.)

You guys are great!

Janie

dear janie, when you find ur center can u invite them to a resturant where people can remain calm in neutral territory? don't know what the deal is here it sure is out of control. sometimes we have to take a step back and let go and that is soooo agonizingly difficult to do. ur son is torn between 2 women and needs to choose to deal with what is real or not. been ther3e done that, have loads of family who choose to be sources of grief. hugs and prayers for good to come out of this bad, but sometimes it takes a really long time to sort thru the crapola. as if u don't have enouff to deal with. i feel ur hurt co-dependent no more is a great book to help one find their center and confidence and a great resource for many areas of life. it sure has been there for me. it is great to focus on taking care of u and allowing others to face their pain insituations they have created for themselves. remember moving targets are harder to hit, remove the victim u , and they will have to deal with each other or not. its sooo hard what u are going thru. please take care of u and make urself feel better it takes alot of practice and change does'nt happen overnite, but take courage it does work and u will grow thru this and know that u r not alone.