My husband was diagnosed about 2 years ago. He is only 64 now. I am53 now. It feels so unfair that just when he retires our life has become so painful.He has changed from a sweet cheerful person to someone that is irritable and self centered.I know it is not his fault but I miss my best friend.
Posts: 4 | Location: husband | Registered: February 08, 2006
I know exactly how you feel. The loss I feel watching my mother with this disease is beyond words. It has to definitely be the most devestating loss of my life, and I am just 34. Knowing what the future holds is even more devestating as well.
Originally posted by May: Ronnie, Yes it is unfair.You work so hard to be able to enjoy the golden years.One day you are living the american dream with the one you hold so dear and then , it seems, the rug is pulled from with under.The converastions you once had are something of the past.The person who shared the ups and downs is no longer available, mentally and many times physically.The one positive is they do remember so much of the past and that does allow some opening to interact.Slowly we see that person drift away and become someone else.Not a good pill to swallow.Does hubby take medication for the mood swings.My huband likes to be demanding with no more please and thank you.There was a time when he would say jump and I would say how high.That was not a good place for me.I thought the more I did the better he would react.But he is not incontrol of his emotions or social skills.The disease pulls the apron strings.I have finally learned I have to draw some boundries for my survival.I know, no matter what I do or say his reasoner is broke so I listen and respond as much as I feel is needed to satisfy him.I have also learned to p[ut some distance between us when he becomes agitated.This way I give him no forum to say the things he feels are necessary for his state of mind
I really hate this illness today I took him to day care for the second time. I wanted him to like it but he hugged a woman there three times before we left.Trust has never been an issue but it felt like a slap in the face. I know his social skills are not what they used to be but still bothered me.
Posts: 4 | Location: husband | Registered: February 08, 2006
Originally posted by SnowyLynne: Ronnie,is he on medications to help him? Yes but they are in the process of adjusting it. he is taking aricept and lexapro
Posts: 4 | Location: husband | Registered: February 08, 2006
Ronnie, Yes it is unfair.You work so hard to be able to enjoy the golden years.One day you are living the american dream with the one you hold so dear and then , it seems, the rug is pulled from with under.The converastions you once had are something of the past.The person who shared the ups and downs is no longer available, mentally and many times physically.The one positive is they do remember so much of the past and that does allow some opening to interact.Slowly we see that person drift away and become someone else.Not a good pill to swallow.Does hubby take medication for the mood swings.My huband likes to be demanding with no more please and thank you.There was a time when he would say jump and I would say how high.That was not a good place for me.I thought the more I did the better he would react.But he is not incontrol of his emotions or social skills.The disease pulls the apron strings.I have finally learned I have to draw some boundries for my survival.I know, no matter what I do or say his reasoner is broke so I listen and respond as much as I feel is needed to satisfy him.I have also learned to p[ut some distance between us when he becomes agitated.This way I give him no forum to say the things he feels are necessary for his state of mind
