My mother has been suffering now for two years, at least, but she is getting more and more irrational. Last week, she asked where the other girl was, and it's just the two of us. She screams at me that I am selfish and self=centered and don't care if she dies. She says I would probably enjoy it. I only care for my friends (who I haven't seen in 6 months). I am retired. Any advice?

I am still a new member here, but let me tell you what I have experienced with my Mom as far as the 'other people' that come into her mind.

I have found that my mother sees or remembers earlier parts of her life. For example, the other day when she was in the hospital she swore up and down that she had a baby boy. She was reliving her years of when she had just had her son.

She has also been known to see some of her friends and some of the people that she used to associate with.

I believe that this is just the disease playing with their minds and that the other person she is seeing is actually a memory from an earlier time.

Thanks for the support. I have been dealing with a new doctor and he is playing with her meds. Today was actually a good day, but who knows?

I think a discussion with the doc is in order. Your mom may need to be on meds, other meds, etc. A symptomless UTI can produce the same confusion. Please understand that the mean things your mom may say are NOT her talking - it is the disease. Talking these symptoms over with your mom's doc is the first place to start.

Yeah, friends do tend to evaporate. Getting out a little is important for your sanity, though, especially when your mom is being crabby and difficult. I hope that you will reash out and get some good advice, perhaps have your mom reevaluated to see if her condition can be improved.

Hang in there and good luck!!

Hi,
I don't know where the multiples come from in this disease but we also had Mother asking about, "all the other old people who live here", all the "other dogs" just like hers and so forth. It was like a single image became a kaleidoscope.

I'm sorry you are suffering abuse. Even though you know she's reading from some old script in her mind, it still hurts. It makes a person feel very, very lonely. I just acknowledged the mean or crazy things Mom said and changed the subject.
Perhaps it's time to call some of those friends and try to get out a bit. They don't seem to come over anymore when you are caregiving a demented elder. This stage WILL PASS but when I can't say.
Hang in there,
Sandi