Just a quick update, some of you are still here from when I use to post here. My mother passed away June 23 this year. We had a long road we travelled with her, she had, alcohol related dementia or Korsakoffs syndrome. We used many tools to help keep her in her home where she wnated her last days, but it was not to be, but she lives near us her final months, in a apartment. We used cameras in her home and the apartment and they were a blessing both early and late stages of dementia. They were at first used to monitor her and her needs and allowed her to be in her home as she wished, as things progressed it was impossible to care for her long distance and she became a bit more willing to move closer to us as the desease progressed. That way we were abble to hire help for when we were unable to be there. Cameras in her apt helped to monitor her care. These were so helpful to us,and I know it won't work in all situations, but I just wanted you to know what it did for our family, and I hope my old posts about them may have helped others where they would work for them. I just want to let those that read my old posts, that I apreciated all their comments and views, many times veiwpoints and ideas are hard to talk about on a message board, not easily understood by those that read the posts and many times the writers ability to fully explain a situation is not good. I still feel bad my posts turned out like they did, I had never intended to have that happen. I and my family are glad we did things the way we did and that is how it should be for everyone. My mother is at peace and so are we, I wish that for all who have to go through the overwhelming task of caregiving.

Hi Merrwid,

It's all cool with me, we all have our own opinions and dealing with caregiving is stressful. What works for one, doesn't work for all. We used cameras for moms care and it was a great tool. Nothing works alone, we spent lots of days and hours caring for her. It was a long road, but it was our road, each of us has only our feelings and our elders feelings to go on, each of us is different. i hope to post here again, but for now, mom is gone. We haves family friend we are helping, she has very early dementia and she wants us to use cameras to help her, they are going in next week and even though I know it is not the whole solution, it has worked to help with care, like I said, not for everyone.

JAH, in spite of all my screaming and bitching about your methods, I'm very glad that things worked out as you hoped they would, and allowed your mom to remain her "independent self" as long as she possibly could. Take care of yourself now, and stay in touch here, OK?

My deepest condolences to you and your family, JAH. Like MB, I hope you will feel free to make use of the Wings section. Many of us have been helped to express our loss. Those of us who are terror stricken at what is to come are often helped to find our courage by the words of survivors.

So sorry for your loss, JAH, but I rejoice at her release! {{{HUGS}}}

For those of us who have lost our loved ones, the "Wings" section of the forum is particularly topical. There's a place to post memorials to our loved ones who have passed on and forms where we discuss the challenges of going on without them. I hope you'll join us there...