Wow, to say times fly is such an overrated statement.
I got a random message from someone on this board and then I had to realize I had not been on this board...or even thought about how the "regular" board members saved my sanity so long (but not that long) ago. Wow. I am reading through some posts and I see some of you are still living through this....some have lost your loved ones....some new people...and the ones that I would consider "professionals" that still continue to pass their wisdom along.
Anyhow, to the "professionals" ....i dont know if you remember me but this is Angel. I lived in Ohio and was taking care of my grandma and having a hard...unbearable time with my family. So much has changed in life now and I am going to have to take a whole day off to catch up on what is going on in your lives. Wow, the memories of sitting in my room only having this board to save my sanity. I am sleepy and am going to bookmark this site but I hope those that remember me will let me know how life has been. God bless this board. Lord knows it saved my life! And to the new comers.....trust that this is a board of sanity!!

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I just wonder how long it takes to get over the crying of my mom passing

I dunno the answer to that one, Angel. My dad died in 1965 and there are still tears... Takes time for the tears to diminish. My best advice is to go to the beach and lay half in and half out of the water and let the water wash your tears away. Worked pretty well in 1966... can't wait for some 2009 gulf therapy!

Still Mar,
Thank you for your response. I really wish i could hear from MB since I went on and on about my life without realizing her mom had passed on as well. Gawd, life is just too crazy. But, you know what? On New Years (of this year) I decided I was done with my family being mad at each other. What was done is done. We all had realllly high emotions and we all acted in ways that we are embarrassed of. So I wrote the aunts an email saying I miss them, I love them and that I wish we could all just bury the hatchet and realize things always work out for a reason. And guess what?? We are all fine now. We've emailed, talked and cried. However, we all realize that time was just emotionally charged irrational times. We all love my grandma and I think we all went temporarily insane at that time trying to figure out how to deal with a woman that was sooo strong of a mother and grandmother and now we had to figure out what to do.
I have no hate left in my heart for them (although my past posts make me seem like a friggin crazy ass woman on the verge of murder!! LOL)
I just wonder how long it takes to get over the crying of my mom passing. Do u know of any good online support sites?? I mean good ones like this one. I am still reading and updating myself on the people i knew from here and want to stay on this board to try to help the current caregivers with their stress. I have a busy life and need a week off to catch up!
And yes, i will pray our Florida weather makes its way to you!
Thank you again!

Angel, So good to hear from you. I lost my mom almost 2 years ago now but come on to try to help others and catch up on my friends. I am so sorry about your mom. You have gone through so much and I do remember how hard you fought to help your grandmother. It still gets to me how relatives can be so mean. I have not seen my brother since my mom's funeral, his choice. I'm glad you are moving ahead down in Fla. Can you please send some warmth up to NJ? xoxoxo

Angel, I seem to have the habit of touching base here and then disappearing again for long periods of time, so I remember parts of your story but not the whole thing. I do believe I recall that you were getting the cr** kicked out of you by various family members who wanted you to care for your granny as long as it didn't cost anything. Sorta kinda? I know you went through a lot, and I'm sorry that - since then - you've had so many major losses. One thing being a caregiver will do (though not necessarily as much while you're still actively in the middle of high stress) is to give you balance and perspective on life and death and the cycle of it all, and our place in it. It sounds like you are keeping your balance and your perspective and moving forward with your life to the best of your ability. I wish you well.

However... as one who has been freezing her tootsies off in Ohio this winter, I am deeply, deeply envious of you having made your way to Florida.

Take care

Hey Baby!! Missin ya like crazy I often think of you.
You NEVER sounded like a mean person please you were being beat up by mean people and you were trying to survive their constant attacks and take care of granny at the same time.
Im sorry to hear about the loss of your mom (((HUGS)))
Were here and know how you feel so dont be a stranger

moms buddy:
I did not see your quote under your 'signature' and now I think I answered my own question. Oh man. I will assume you mean "wings" by her leaving this earth? Wow. I am sorry I asked before i read. I am so sorry. No typed words can express the gratitude I have for you to help me when I was going crazy. Bless your heart for being there for your mom and sorry this is late.

Hey Moms Buddy!
Good gawd, i am still trying to catch up with familiar names so I can read what is going on in their lives....but I did reread back through some of my posts when i was in Ohio and APPARENTLY STRESSED THE F**k OUT HUH??? jeeeezzzzz!!! I am so ashamed of some of my posts and i know I was stressed and having this site and this board to vent to was really a blessing. But jeeezzzz!! I sounded like a mean person and boy did it bring back some flashbacks. Hard, reality sucks flashbacks. Good gawd.
The granny is still in the nursing home....her mind is going down hill fast. She is in a wheel chair (remeber me fighting for a wheel chair equipped van and going back and forth to court every other week?) Wow, to think I fought to try to get a van! LOL.....whew, that seems like centuries ago! I am just amazed that i typed most of the messages and was in so much stress. Yet, I'd do it all over again.
I am still in Florida. Still getting my life back in order. I sold most everything when i moved to ohio so I am still stuggling...but better to struggle in florida than in cold Ohio!.
About one year after I moved here I lost my mom. I am going to try to find a grieving online support group for that because I cant stop crying. After that I lost a best friend to cancer and then 2 other friends to various illness's. But hey I'M ALIVE
And how are you and how is your mom? (God knows I have not gotten to all the past post's so I will assume she is still hanging in there and if not I will feel real bad).
Please let me know how you are and HELLLLLOOO to all my friends that used to spend quality online "happy hour" with me!!!

Hey Angel - long time, no see! How've you been doin'? How's yer gramma? Wake up - idle minds need to know!!

Hope all is well with you and that you've done well and are happy.

Hello Angel. We barely crossed paths between my first post and your last post, but I do remember your name. I am sure there are some others who will be glad to hear from you as well. Stop in often to say hi. Welcome back.