I too can relate to the frustration about the same questons asked repeatedly. But now that my Mom is barely intelligible I would love to hear a whole question! How ironic! I think too that it is an experience of us all to feel guilty one day and empathy the next and despair and love and on and on. So you are not alone. And I do think G-d hears your prayers. Sometimes the answer is just not the one we want. Hang in there!

i am lindas daughter(linda is lilone) but yes, my mom works from 7-4 m-f and i work from 430pm-130am s-f but thanks for ur responses

i forgot to add, the questions wil go on and on and on and on...i have been answering the same ones for 3 years! no new ones, just the same old ones over and over and over.... no answer to that one. sorry. yes, i think the repetition can be the hardest part. get some headphones and great music! you say you work full time also. is that outside the home?

hello, thank u very much for responding to me, as for my son, he is gone from 8-430 mon-fri at school and then he also goes to church on wed night and sunday morning. it doesnt matter if he is here or not, she blames him for everything... i just take it all with a grain of salt it is just getting so hard. she asks the same questions over and over and over again and it is so exasperating. i am home with my gma all day long and i feel as though i could explode... i dont though because i am a godly woman that loves her gma!!! i just pray that god will continue to give me patience for i know that she will not be with us all that much longer... thank u

tammy, i hear all your frustration and the pain you feel for your son. who knows why someone picks out one person to target with their critisizm but even though she is sick let her know that you will not allow disparaging remarks about your son. if it takes telling her several times a day stick up for him. he deserves to have a strong advocate. as far as asking for her mom or dad, daisy does tis quite often. we have all come to te same conclusion. to her the time is real, she is honestly concerned about where tey are so tis is where little white lies come in. they called and will be a little late, or you asren't working today, you have today off. also, ask during these times for her to describe something, them, the kind of car they drive, wat their house looks like, etc. not only will you get a better idea of what decade she is dealing with but you will learn a little about her history. ask if she has any chores to do when she gets home. just anything you tink of. it comes to a point that the truth will not register and only make them more disoriented and anxious.how much does your son understand the disease? it would help, especially since he seems to be on her negative list, to understand more about it and that it is not him but a brain disease. there is a lot of information on the internet or get books from the library to teach him more. even as adults some of us have been terribly hurt by the words of our ill loved ones. and even as caregivers we learn something new everyday of the illness of dementia or alzheimers. so you can't expect him to know too much about it at his young age. educate him on the disease. it will be his best defense. god does hear us. sometimes i believe we must face such awful things to be reminded of all of our blessings and we do all have them. our strength and beliefs are tested everyday. god is there for you. hang on tammy, unfortunately, it usually gets worse before it gets better. understand this, hang on and keep your faith. come here and talk when you need to and give your son a big hug. we all care about his welfare. oh, and give yourself and mom big hugs too.

Tammy, It seems you are making the distinction between her and the disease. That is crucial. And while it is difficult to have your son go through this, he is not too young to be exposed to this. Still, he needs a buffer zone.

Are there any after school activities that might interest him? Sports, language clubs, chess, Church programs, scouting?? Big brother program? I believe he needs something of his apart from the home, but I never raised children so it is an untried belief.

The aggravation comes with the territory, Tammy, being aggravated is not a reason for quilt. How you handle it is another matter. Type away and vent with us. Be aware that the holidays compound all the stress.

God hears you.