Sorry I need to vent

I care for 2 one has a mental problem my husband and my mum has dementia.

Mum has jsut gone into a wheel chair so it is a little harder to manage, I have 2 step sisters that have not helped in the last 6 yrs since my dad died, now that she is in a wheelchair they really dont want to know anymore
One of the step sisters comes to see mum on sunday for 1/2 a hour the other one says she wont come to the house as it causes her anziety.

But they keep on lodging a complaint with the adult guardian. They only really want the money my father got as compenstion 3 mths before he died for asbestois.

My husband just received another lot of compensation for being in homes with the Priests and Nuns abuse cases these is his 4th lot of money, I have yet to see any of it as he says it is his money for what he went through, but he forgets I have suffered for the last 40yrs from his abuse.(I struggle on the pension to pay everything My rent alone is $400 a week)

I am just about ready to walk away from the lot.

Ugh. It's just ironic how consistent it is that the ones who don't have the responsibility, don't do the work, and who refuse to have any aspect of their lives disrupted by caregiving seem to be the "experts".

The one thing that would really make it easier for all of us is to occasionally hear, "What can I do for you?" instead of, "What YOU should be doing is ...."

Oh baby, what a mess. I am so sorry.
I would be so rolling mad that I would probably have told "The Guardian" to pack up Mum and take her to Auntie's huse RIGHT THIS MINUTE if she thought I wasn't taking proper care.
If I stopped to catch my breath and let my brain catch up to my mouth, I could probably wait until the court date to tell them that, but I've bitten my tongue so much in the past that it's already much shorter than it used to be!
OK. breathe, breathe, breathe!
I wish there were words to help you sort this out, but I know you can only wait until you are called. In the mean time, can you round up paperwork from doctor visits and things like that, to verify the hearing aid problem and any others; to validate the care YOU have been providing?
Big big hugs to you.

Well the it has finally happened the so called Adult Guardian that I have not seen or spoke too since september 2007 arrived on the door step unannounced and started giving there order.

Mum has not worn hearing aids for 2 yrs as they cause confulsions due to epilipsy I have been ordered to put them in and a court order is arriving from the adult guardian to do so, I asked them were they going to look after her if she had a fit and they said under the human rights section they can demand it, what a load of crap.

The problem is they are due to take this back to court in 10 weeks as there 5 years court order is up, and now they want to make out how much they care Bullsxxt I say.

I have only ever spoke to the Adut Guardian maybe 5 times on the phone in 5 years and seen them 2 times today will be the 3rd time and they are supposed to handle mums personal, health and accomdation this is total incompetence and neglete, in my opinion.

I would say the eldest step sister has lodged a complaint again for some reason. I wish they would just leave us alone mum is fine well and in good health except for the mental side of things.

Hello Speedzip! Welcome.
What has "the Guardian" have to say about all of this? Has s/he ever talked to YOU, or just listened to the step-sisters? Seems to me you need a sit down with that one, too.

speedzip welcome in

This is what the anger board is for...to vent
So vent away.
I would have to say though that since you reside in a different country I would check with a local lawyer on the matter of monetary issues
Here if the money is received during a marriage its half yours but there it might be different.
Step sisters though...wow their not being fair to you and your family is there any way to lodge some type of complaint or restraining order against them to stop the harassment/lodging complaints to the guardian?