So I have gone from being in a great mood looking forward to vacation next week to this...

Mondays are the day that my younger brother comes over to help out Dad. He is 33. Typically his "helping out" consists of sitting in the office next to the living room and playing on the computer all day.

Yesterday he did jsut that and when I got home last night he informed me of the following:

Dad is complainging because I am not painting the room fast enough and it looks bad...(Dad doesnt notice anything so I found this strange). I explained to him that I have been busy and since I had to spend over $2,000 out of my own pocket this month to pay for Dad, the reverse mortgage stuff and his bills, I did not have extra cash to hire someone to come in and do it.

_Then he informed me that Dad's "case worker" called and that Dad cancelled his meals on wheels because he doesn't eat it. Dad eats it 4 out of the 5 days he gets it. I said "why would let him do that"...his reply" he told me he doesn't eat it". Now, a man with dementia tells you he doesn't like the food that he has no idea about...

I aked him what else the case worker said and his reply was "I don't know...Dad talked to her"...Dads reply "talked to who, what are you talking about"...so now I have to try to find her, get the meals on wheels started again and make sure they don't jsut talk to dad.

-Lastly, it seems that my little brother loves porn and my computer was infected with all of these viruses last night. I spent over 4 hours getting iot to the point where I could get back online. I called him, but he wouldn't pick up the phone.

It is frustrating enough that my brother eats me out of house and home (I buy two loaves of bread on Fridays grocery trip and on Monday he eats a whole loaf of it...I buy english moffuns, he eats all 6...i buy sodaa he drinks the whole bottle).

So last night I password coded my computer, I am buying doorknowbs with locks for my room so he cant go in there, I will have to grocery shop on Monday eves now so he cant eat all of our food...

It is jsut one more thing to be angry about and my cup is overflowing now....AARRGGHHHHHH

too bad at 33 years old your brother never grew up. don't let him ruin your vacaion. you need it. the jerk. if he knows how to cruise porn sites he should be smart enough to cruise the grocery store. have him shop for his own needs and also make him take a trip to the store to replace anything he eats or uses that he didn't plan on. i have had that around here with all my son's friends eating like sharks and then leaving me high and dry when it was time to feed my third shift H and pack lunches. i finally blew and it helped the situation some. not completely but some. now, if they eat a half bag of doritos they have to bring back a whole bag or eat the last cereal they have to replace a whole box, and on their gas money. they are all teens with drivers licenses so there is no excuse, especially since they also live within a stones throw of our house. kick your brother's butt and make him grow up. leave for yr vacation and don't look back. enjoy yourself. i just did for the first time in 3 years and we need it. we locked our computer away when we left. we also locked up all alcohol in thehouse, any stray meds, private papers etc. it's a shame to have to be on guard so much but there is usually a good reason it comes to that point. please enjoy yourself.

It is so aggravating to find that "volunteers" to "help" are often opportunists, with little or no respect for the situation. The suckiest part, is that they really do think they are helping and that what they take is fairly earned, with no thought to the inconvenience that they cause, throwing the shopping out of wack , virusing your PC, on and on.

By all means, block him out of the PC. As for groceries, a certain one of my Mom's CGs seems to have no clue what she puts in her face, not as bad as your Bro by a long shot, but I Have found it useful to keep a lot of my shopping in the trunk of my car and bring it out a little at a time. I also have a spare old "fridge in the basement where I store extra perishables that has a lock on it.

Sounds like your Bro needs Meals on Wheels himself.

Yes, he is thoughtless and irresponsible. You have every reason to limit his access and useage of the things in that house and it is a crying shame that you have to. But will he come , if you do, and do you care?

Sometimes we have to go through the trouble of figuring out how to control our help even if we know we shouldn't have to, if they really do give us a break. But decide if they are more trouble than they are worth.

Sorry you are going through this. You truely have enough on your plate. Damn shame , when the crystal ball is in the shop.