Had a mjor tet-a-tet with H. He insisted that the script insurance from his company was the best... WRONG.. For ME, blood pressure med (HCTZ) Crappy insurance has charged me $20/90 days. WalMart charges me $10/90 days without any card. Just flat out, the end.

I am mostly upset with H... He is in denial even after I showed him the script, the bottle, the pills... He says I am wrong. Nutz...

I really thought I was OK with all of this until I had an outbreak of shingles. Stress related most of the time...

Not all my stress is related to elder care. There is the stress that people (Hs?) put on us, (Not my fault, not meeee, I am soo reasonable).
Arrrggghhh.... He went balistic when I offered to check his meds. Told me to mind my own business.

My MIL has a long history of clinical depression. Rather than neglectful, she tended to be controlling. Well, still tries but he no longer puts up with it. This woman wrote the book on guilt tripping, including a couple of fake "suicide attempts" when she wasn't getting her way. I was only a member of the family for the second one, but will never forget her family gathered around her hospital bed while she ranted at them, "See what YOU made me do!" She treated my husband's daddy like crap, which I think is at the heart of my husband's defensiveness about suggestions from me. He doesn't want to be, uh, puddin whipped like he perceived his dad to be. I believe with all my heart that she's bipolar.

I recognize the behavior because my grandmother (whom I loved dearly) was the same way. She was a wonderful grandmother, but now as an adult I can see how hellish my dad and aunt's lives were being raised by her.

TORP, our H's and their Mom's could be a whole 'nother forum (it probably is but I haven't searched). You are really on to something there. From the description of his Mom when he was a child, she must have suffered from some psychosis or other. Her abuse of them was one of neglect. She held conversations with the voice on the radio while his younger sisters sat in the playpen hungry and dirty until he would get home from the first grade, change them and make them PBJs.

She was shipped off to the state hospital where they gave her electro-convulsive therapy and eventually she never did come home figuratively and literally. H seems to think every woman could drop off the deep end at any moment.

I happen to KNOW that every man walks a tight rope over a deep pit So we watch out for one another, both of us tend to be protective and wary.

LOL@"his idea" YEP! So when we leave it alone, we typically get our way much quicker than arguing with them.

In my husband's case, I think it relates to his relationship with his mom. I've paid for her sins for many, many years.

Everyone, you are right. Breathe, not worth it. LOL, TORP. In 6 months it will be his idea. Mine does that too.

Oh, my husband goes hardheaded on foolish things like this. I think it's caused by the y-chromosome. Anyway, I've found it most effect not to argue with him any further and not bring it up again. Typically within a week or two, he'll decide to come to reason and either ask me to check into it or do it himself and not say a word about it. It's really REALLY hard to swallow that chuckle when he does, but I'm well practiced at keeping a straight face and acting dumb. LOL Some stuff just not worth fighting about.

Annie, don't forget to breathe!

Correcto mento BG, In my case I only have the one script, and it is $40/ year savings. He has 5 scripts. Who knows. It is not my beeswax according to H, so I will try to put my nose back in joint and move on.

AERRRGGHHH

Not for nothin my love but sometimes someone loves to be right even in the face of black and white proof....
Let um have it, it comes outta his pocket if he wants to bleed himself dry...well he has no one to blame but himself...
I wont say it but Im thinkin it!