So, ma....you think I don't know anything about dad, huh? I'm the one that has looked up info for you, I've been to different web sites, found books, looked up phone numbers, and even gotten dad to do things you CLAIMED he'd never do, like get him to use his walker to go to the bathroom. OK OK, I know he's not using it now beause I'm not there, but I told you when I was there that you have to keep on him to make sure he uses it, but no, you're too busy doing your puzzles online to care!

Now you have the nerve to bitch and moan about how bad dad's been today, because he's....say it with me...OUT OF HIS HEAD...yes I know he's unpredictable....and I listen to you bitch on the phone about how he fell in the shower, how he wanted to go out to eat, how he has "canes all over the place," how his diapers are (supposedly) pinching him, and he just refuses to listen to you, blah blah blah....and yet you go and yell at him and accuse him of refusing to cooperate when I TOLD YOU THAT IT DOESN'T HELP TO DO THAT....IT JUST MAKES THINGS WORSE...AND ALL YOU DO IS SNAP "I JUST DON'T CARE ANYMORE..." WELL WOMAN YOU OUGHTA CARE. YOU HAVE PEOPLE WHO'VE OFFERED TO LOOK AFTER HIM, LIKE THE BECK'S. "OH I WOULDN'T ASK ANYONE TO DO THAT." MA!!!! I THINK YOU LOVE TO BITCH.

Oh Lynda, you don't know anything about how dad is. YEAH RIGHT!!! I'M THE ONE WHO'S GONE AND LOOKED UP INFO. AND WHILE I'M AT IT, I'M THE ONE WHO HAS GONE TO ONLINE BOARDS AND SITES AND GOTTEN INFO FOR YOU!!! I KNOW NOTHING ABOUT DAD. YEAH RIGHT. I SAW HOW HE IS. I KNOW MUCH MORE THAN YOU CARE TO ADMIT!

I can hear you now, "I don't have to listen to this!" JUST SAY IT, WITCH...I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING AND ONLY YOU DO. YOU'VE ALWAYS BEEN TAHT WAY TO ME. So hang up on me, cuz YOU have to have your way. FINE. WHATEVER!

BY THE WAY, Remember that book I just ordered for you...on understanding and caring for people with AD???? Well you know even if you don't think he has that, it still can be used on dementia patients....and you said it'd help you...it was your idea for me to order it! So WHY HAVEN'T YOU READ IT????? You've had it for a week now, and you want people to think you're SO busy from morning til night that you can't even glance at it? WELL I'VE SEEN HOW BUSY YOU ARE, WHAT A TYPICAL DAY IS LIKE FOR YOU AND BELIEVE ME YOU'RE NOT THAT BUSY. YOU HAVE TIME TO TAKE 3 OR 4 NAPS A DAY, YOU DON'T EVEN WANT TO COOK MEALS BECAUSE "I'M TOO TIRED", AND WHEN YOU'RE NOT SLEEPING OR COOKING FOR A FEW SECONDS (YES, SECONDS - YOU CLAIM YOU JUST CAN'T DO IT ANYMORE....WONDER WHY....CUZ YOU WON'T ALLOW ANYONE TO HELP!)....THOSE TIMES YOU'RE NOT DOING EITHER OF THOSE THINGS YOU'RE AT YOUR PUTER DOING ONLINE CROSSWORDS AND JIGSAW PUZZLES. AND IT'S NOT TWICE A WEEK, IT'S EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR AT LEAST 3 HOURS A DAY. SO DON'T TRY TO TELL ME YOU DON'T HAVE TIME, YOU DO HAVE THE TIME BUT YOU KNOW WHAT? I THINK YOU'VE MADE UP YOUR MIND, THAT YOU'RE NOT GONNA READ THAT BOOK....NOPE....VIVO THE GREAT DOESN'T WANT TO LEARN HOW TO COPE OR WHAT TO EXPECT...NO....VIVO WANTS TO SIT AND PLAY....IT'S PLAYTIME EVERY DAY FOR VIVO....AND WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE PLAYING YOU LOVE TO WHINE AND BITCH AND YELL AT ANYONE WHO DARES TO CHALLENGE OR CORRECT YOU!!!! AND GOD FORBID, DON'T EVER, EVER TRY TO CALM VIVO THE GREAT DOWN, VIVO'S ENTITLED TO GET ANGRY AND BE AS BITCHY AND PUSHY AS SHE WANTS.

POOR POOR WIDDA VIVO HAS IT SO EFFING BAD. OH SHUT THE EFF UP!!! ALL THE THINGS YOU ACCUSE ME AND DAD OF, CAN BE APPLIED RIGHT BACK TO YOU. LIKE YOUR CLAIM THAT WE JUST DO THINGS TO HURT YOU. OH YEAH RIGHT MA. I JUST LIVE FOR THAT. YOU THINK YOU HAVE ME ALL FIGURED OUT. OH YEAH MA, YOU'RE SO RIGHT ABOUT ME. YOU'VE SURE GOT ME PEGGED. YEAH RIGHT!! WELL, YOU WANT RESPECT FROM ME? STOP ACTING LIKE YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO CONTROL ME. YOU DON'T. STOP ACCUSING ME OF THINGS THAT ARE NOT TRUE. STOP SAYING I'M LYING TO YOU. I GOT NEWS FOR YOU: THAT SCRIPTURE YOU QUOTE TO ME, HONOR YOUR MOTHER AND FATHER, THAT DOESN'T IMPLY THAT YOU HAVE TO HONOR THEM NO MATTER HOW THEY ACT. READ PROVERBS AND SEE WHAT IT SAYS ABOUT PARENTS MISTREATING THEIR CHILDREN.

YOU MAKE IT VERY DIFFICULT FOR ME TO LOVE YOU WHEN YOU ACT LIKE THIS, YOU'RE NOTHING BUT AN OLDER WOMAN WHO ACTS MORE LIKE AN EFFING TEENAGER. GO EFF YOURSELF!!!

Lynda

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Lvanaett-
Is it possible that ma might be suffering from dementia too? Whatever. Vent away, my friend. I've written many a letter that I've never mailed, just to get stuff off my chest. It works! Hope tomorrow is a better day. Hang in there!
Kathleen