Hi everyone! I took a little break, but I'm coming back a little at a time.
Don's daughters and 2 granddaughters want to "be friends" all of a sudden.
I was married to him for 18 years, and they virtually ignored me.
I'm very suspicious of their motives.
I've set up a memorial gathering at the house for May 26; of course they are coming (they live out of state) but do they really think I'm going to welcome them with open arms? One of them is the same one who accused me of not buying new eyeglasses for Don because "he wasn't worth it, so don't give me that crap."
She's the same one got her granddaddy to co-sign for $5000 worth of furniture that she quit paying on. Guess what that little bitch is getting as a memento of Don? I've been quiet and pleasant and polite to all of them for all this time. I'm done with that. They want to plant a tree in my yard in his memory so they can come visit and watch it grow. Oh please!
They didn't come to see Don when he was alive - nor did they even bother to call and talk to him. Why do they think I think they'll come over to visit a damn tree?
Oh, and (against Don's wishes - he didn't belong to any religious group - the daughter has arranged a memorial service in her church.
I'm invited, if I bring his ashes. Don's caregiver is already threatening "bloodshed in the workshop" if they start whining and playing "poor me". My father refuses to be in the same room with them - and Dad can usually be civil to a lot of people, but not these 3.
Mom is all set to help the Caregiver!
I think I'll hold the door. Of course, the church ladies will be putting on a meal after the service...........even if I don't agree with the teachings of a particular group, I know most of them are wonderful cooks! Being pleasant for one more day is a small price to pay for a meal. But then the gloves are off.

Uh I think what that means is she cant sell that property without your permission either Dam that means she gotta be nicey nice to you Muhahahaha Aw dam wheres my devil face when I need it?! Oh here it is

Dang DW good show girl! Shes gonna learn...it taint nice to fool with mother nature as my Mama used to say with an ole tell tale twinklin in the eye

Me personally I would wait with all the hassle they have given to you...Nothin better than seein someone who deserves a little retribution get side swiped when they least expect it! lmao *snort* I told ya I am a lil devil today! Muhahahaha

BG, she and I are "tenants in common"
I'm not quite sure what that means but I think I have to have her signature if I ever decide to sell. Which is not very likely. She stands to get it all if I die before she does.
You can bet I'm going to take very, very good care of myself.
She's supposed to have a lawsuit pending. I wish she'd poke HER lawyer with a stick and get him moving. Then she can pay off her mortgage and her car, and I can get my lot back all to myself, because I will make her sign a quit claim.
I'm just wondering: should I tell her and her kids how I feel while they're all here on Saturday when I have witnesses, or Sunday after the church supper, or should I wait until June?
I can't wait to tell them all off, but - well - you know..........

Wait a minute DW Does this mean you still have ownership of said property????!!!! Say its so! lmao Payback is a mother if it is
Ok Im sorry Im just a tad evil today Dont be mad Ive had a lot of practice with hunnys family on that one!

I just love knowing I'm surrounded by people who know an understand!
I spoke with my lawyer yesterday. The bill collectors are calling quite frequently for the stuff Don co-signed on (all without my knowledge, which works in my favor, I think).
They just refuse to accept it when I tell them that they cannot speak to Don, and why.
The lawyer said if it gets to be too much of a nuisance, he will be glad to write them a short letter. I did get a shock though, when he told me that I did indeed sign mortgage papers on the mobile home for Don's daughter. I told him I was blindsided, and the only thing I remembered about that day was signing a warranty deed, transferring ownership of a 1/2 acre piece of dirt from just Don & me to Don & Mallory and me. Everybody kept assuring me that I didn't have a thing to worry about.
I guess I still don't. If she defaults and they want me to start paying, she and her 5 animals will be out of there. As far as I'm concerned, they can all live in the motor home she's got. It doesn't run and needs some body work, but why should I care?
Thanks and hugs to you all.

Oh Good one BC! DW I like the weeping cherry...what a beauty. Make sure theres a privacy fence put up WITH a lock so they cant get in
That'll teach em ta mess with ya!

Tell them to plant a tree in teir own yards or in a park local to them, because there really is no reason now for them ever to come back, is there? You could always specify the tree and it's placement so that you get something really pricey that you would actually like to have. ( 12 foot weeping cherry planted by a professional landscaper, with them footing the bill, comes to mind). (or a gorgous red Japanese Maple) You know what they have in mind is some ten inch silver maple right on your water line. After this memorial is past, they don't have any right or reason to ever be there again.,

DW....You are a strong as well as smart lady to wonder what's up. I didn't have my brother, my only family get close after mom died....just the opposit. Now that I am fighting him and not backing down he's scared. His reputation is ruined by his acts these last few weeks. I'm going to be right there, even if only in spirit, to help you. With all of us here for you they better watch out@

Donswife, I hope you have plenty of RolAids in your purse... Sounds like a nest of weasels to me, but I do understand trying to accede to their wishes a little... Sounds to me like Don married a pretty astute woman. I hope everyone will be on their best behavior and that it will make folks be closer and kinder to one another.

Then again, I was kinda hoping to win the lottery tomorrow night also...

Wonder which one has shorter odds...

In which case, watch out for snakes!

Hang in there, dear, and know you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Pfftt! Watch out DW Lord I see a side swipe comin!
Uh Im hopin Im wrong but just ta be safe plaster that smile on and carry my sledge hammer behind your back just in case!
I hate gettin side swiped by nicey nice back stabbers...
And tell em to plant their dam tree in their own dam yard let them add to their own dam water bill you dont need that unless you want it... They musta forgot your not the gullible person they think you are
When in doubt repeat these words to yourself "Iron fist in a velvet glove" my dear