Yes, this is the spot for me right now. tho feel a bit in shock. Over the past 6 months I have tried to address the issue of enduring power of attorney and medical wishes. The deafening silent response or incoherent mutterings of my siblings should have been a good hint I know. Yeah so today chatting on the phone to dad and worked out by default that nothing has been addressed to protect him. I feel quite sick, angry at myself for thinking i was a power tripper for wanting to know or assuming anything. Ahhhhhh. thank you.

Still angry, have to get on a nice even keel to walk Dad thro it all, was feeling pretty confident the paper trail had been sorted. Dad has EPOA for mum, that was sorted 2yrs ago, and silly me thought "the lawyer, the psychologist and professional baby" would have seen the task completed not half done!!! I have brought the subject up with those three several times since i stepped up the mark 8 months ago. Funny when I lost thee plot 16yrs ago i used to have this delusional thinking that nobody could hear me speaking. . . . gee i wonder where that came from. I feel quite anxious with regard to sibling meeting, thank goodness the councellor will be there as referee!!!! thanks y'all.

People put this stuff off, para... And when old folks start getting a little bit on the demented side, it's sometimes REAL HARD to get them to sign legal documents as they view it as a loss of control or someone's trying to get their money! Sibs often are in denial about the mortality aspect of our parents, so they put it off. The next thing ya know, you are in a bind without the proper papers...

Keep pressing... I dunno what the laws are like in your neck of the woods, but here, folks have to sign that stuff before they are too far gone, or it won't stand up in court should it be challenged.

Stay on 'em - you are NOT being a worrywart - you are having forethought!!

Paradoxa I dont know if Im getting this right but it sounds to me like your not getting cooperation from siblings???
Hun I get that you are trying to protect your parents but there is only 1 or 2 of you who live in the area correct?
Sometimes its a mater of not knowing these issues I can tell you when I first got here I knew about POA's and DPO's but I didnt realize how very valuable they were till I needed them.
Maybe your siblings that are not in the area really dont get what is happening here that has you so concerned for your parents welfare?
I think its time you demanded an audience with them all to discuss all of this in detail so that you all are on the same page...I hope this helps
PS sweetie dont be mad at yourself this is in no way your fault. You are trying to be responsible here