My H father has been gone since April 4. Do you know that we have not recieved anything from my H company at our personal address? I am talking about something as simple as a condolence card. NOTHING!

Should this bother me?

Well, if it is important or not, it is bothering me! What is up with Corporate America? DANG, they will bleed you dry and then ask for more!

I just do not understand this....I feel as if they don't consider an employee's family important!

Am I wrong???

News about my H's corporate office. I had a long talk with him, he said there were two people from headquarters at the funeral and has had several phone calls from the downtown office. This meant the world to him, he was very touched and that is all that matters to me!

subject closed and moving on!!!!!!!!!

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I just do not understand this....I feel as if they don't consider an employee's family important!

Am I wrong???

Nope. IMHO, you are not wrong; you are exactly right - actually, I don't think many employers give a crap about their employees, let alone their families.

The Miss Manners in me says that they should have sent something from the office personnel if not from the company. Used to be they'd send flowers, and people from work would show up at the funeral, etc. But nowadays, that kind of civility, loyalty and respect seem forgotten. After all, if they did that for everyone, how could they continue to pay the CEOs the outrageous salaries and bonuses and stock options that they do?

Personally, I think it is the little things like this in so many areas of our lives that have contributed to our culture becoming as quarrelsome and heartless as it is today. Hopefully, there will be a resurgence in "giving a crap" and "being NICE" real soon 'cause the way things are now is downright discouragin'...

LMAO! Oh no it was late for me last night MIL was up till about 3am last night now sleepin off and on so y'all know what that means anudder late night for us

BWB- that is sad that not even a card was sent. My boss closed my class and the class next to me so the teachers can support me. (he was worried Roy might try something there too and wanted me to have support) The teaachers cooked and baked and I also got a fruit basket from the school. My son's job sent a lovely green plant. All the teachers, secretaries and my boss attended the wake too. Guess, no I know I am lucky. Some neighbors though have said nothing and that surprises me.

BG is on the west coast if I'm not mistaken. It's not late there yet. Time zone stuff.

BG? If you don't mind my asking, what are you doin up so late???

Me and BC have been talkin about our sleep patterns... I am going back to bed, I have a new book and hopefully this time will do the trick!!!

goodnight honeys!!!!!!!!!!!

BG, you are right again, Corporations don't ,,, people do.

Yes darlin' it does. Sometimes I expect too much from others when I shouldn't. It's not like I'm perfect myself!!!!!

Well Blue from experience not the corporation itself but the employees who work with your Hunny may give him a card...When deaths in the family occurred at my old job one of us would go out and buy a card and pass it around for everyone to sign.
I really dont think you should get upset sometimes its hard for people to pass out condolences I know its hard for me I cant be flowery in my writing its mostly short an to the point but not cause I dont feel for someone in their hour of need, its really about drawing a blank that I really cant explain other than the words just sound so hollow to me...Im sure they will tell him themselves how sorry they are for his loss if they dont my thought they dont care or cant find the words to express???
Hows that baby? Does that make ya feel a lil bit better?

You were clear, I misread, Now that I am clear, I see more reason to be bothered. No use butting headds though with those guys. Just hold Hub's hand like you've been doing all along. They will do what they will do. Some donations to both my father's and my brother's charity were months coming in. We would think we had answered everything and then , another notice. For both Dad and Brother things trickled in for months. We still get an occasional notice about a donation to charity in my niece's name and she has been gone for 17 years. (Most of those are on going contributions however, people who have done it before.)

BC, please forgive me. It is way too late for me to be up, I went to bed but could not go to sleep. That nap I had late this afternoon couldn't be the culprit, huh?

You read me right, I am just too tired to be up.

Bobcat, I don't think I was clear, as is often the case.

My fil had been retired for over 30 years.
It is my Husbands company that has not aknowledged the death of his father. That is what is bothering me. Many of his coworkers have been supportive and sent sprays and plants that I know many of them did not have in their budget.

It is the coporate headquarters that is being silent. This is not a huge company, and he is very well known in these offices. He works in the oil fields.

Heck yeah, I'ld be bothered, was he retired? and if so how were they notified? If he was active but on medical leave so much the worse. Nothing that I ever saw came from the company my Dad retired from, granted I may have missed it. But I think I saw everything and reviewed all the cards and flowers and donations.
To tell the truth, I don't think former empoyers get involved in these situations. When my Dad died, the company I worked for part time for only 3 years sent gorgeous flowers and a donation to the charity mentioned. And they had never met him.
If something happened to Hub, the only thing I expect to hear from the company he works for would be a release form saying whatever it was , it wasn't their fault. His co workers and union rep would be at my door making sure I signed nothing.
That is the remaining old guard. After he retires, some of these guys will still pay attention if they last that long.
The only notice my Dad's company will take is another pensioner off the roll and glad of it. Oh yeah, it ticks me off, too .Once gone, always forgotten, seems to be the motto.
My Dad worked for his compny for 40 years.
Still, being upset by Corporate America probably is a waste of time and energy. It is a clear message they send, they move on, so should we. Mom's part of the pension is a supplimental health care plan( for which we are glad) and about 50 bucks a month. That is still better than many widows receive.

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