the girl that comes to assist me with my mothers baths is in the hospital. my mom is 93 and i am the soul caregiver..elder services has issued another agency..well they left for the weekend and the agency told me they cant start til the 11th of sept..so wth do i do now..you need 2 people for a bath..im all alone..the more this goes on with all these girls the more downhill she goes..they dont understand i need someone to help me..grrr!!! sorry i am just at my wits end..wish i knew tohers in my area..we could help each other out..

THEY accused YOU of being abusive?! The audacity! I am so sure! Like they DONT know what you are going through with your mom and your frustration level?! OK gloves off so gonna hit somethin here! How dare they give away your hours! GO! DO! go to another agency I cant believe this baby! They need to get hauled out on that proverbial carpet for this crime!
Im gonna go off in a corner to cool down for a minute!
Freakin SOBs! EEEWWWW!

my situation is much the same..one agency said i verbally abused her..lol..i didnt i was very upset..she got things so screwed up with the new agency coming..she gave my mothers hours away..ugh!!
the other thing PCA need more training..they dont know where hot and cold water is..omg..its unbeleiveable..thank you all..i do aprreciate all your advice..

FR, when Mom was still ambulatory, despite my efforts, sometimes she would just "run down" - new problems would crop up, existing ones would worsen and all of a sudden, I was losing control and her condition was worsening.

Call her doc and explain the situation! He might be able to order a short stay in rehab. The folks there can really do wonders getting our elders back together again!

As far as the way your agency has treated you, the mental midget who bathes by throwing water, etc. - darlin', ya gotta take the bull by the horns. Do NOT let these folks buffalo you! Your mother needs care. If they will not provide it, someone HAS to... call another one, and another one and another one until you find people who actually believe in working for a living according to the standards of their job descriptions. Do NOT take any crap AT ALL from them - you are PAYING for the service. I would also refuse or decrease payment to any agency whose workers don't work or who gives me a hard time and WASTES my precious time. Money talks and bullsh*t walks. Around here, if they want a check, they better earn it. If they want me to ALLOW medicare to pay them, they had better do a reasonable job or I will actually contact Medicare with my complaints, direct them to refuse payment and the agency will be in a WORLD of sh*t then!!

FR this is just like them one week their fine the next sometimes their not shes getting a little stiff and probably has some pain and thats why she doesnt want to stand anymore and probably a little depression at what is obviously happening here. Fire these idiots (throw water at her?!) Im so sure! In what world was she livin in?! I would so go off on her "this may not be your mother but it is certainly mine and while your here you WILL show some compassion when doin things around here otherwise theres the door! Dont let it hitcha where the good Lord splitcha!" Ewww that juss fries me on all kinds of levels its not even funny! fire them! Sweetie there are always one to take there place...go to a senior cent an Alz Assn. meet and ask around youll get some recommmendations from others in the same situation. Dont wait on this just do your mom happiness is at stake here as I am sure she also feels your frustration at whats happening. Keep us posted

my mother isnt bedridden..but within these 3 weeks..she wont stand for me anymore. shes stopped doing what she did before..because they send me all asshats to help..some actually cupped the water in there hands and thru it on her..wth is that..so sock of it..dont know if i should consider a nursing home or not..ugh!!

tell your agency that it is not acceptable to have a many new gals.
Keep calling agencies till you get what YOU want.
AliceRN

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Originally posted by GailSusan:
Does your mom need to have a bath or will a sponge bath do? My dad hasn't been in a shower or bathtub for 20 years (no, he doesn't stink -- I have a very sensitive nose). He been doing sponge baths for decades now and seems to be fine.

I'm sorry to hear that elder services has left such a gap. Two weeks is a long time. It doesn't seem right. Is there a supervisor you can speak to?

elder services prob is..my worker is never in..shes nice but always out..and no one knows what the other is doing..so i am getting the blunt end of it..or so my mother is

Well she has ben getting a bath everyday..she isnt bedridden.she still will stand and pivot..but some aids wont let her and just grab her..the old agency is still going to come..but not happy so i get a different girl and different time everyday..ugh!!!!

FR I have to agree with Gail here give her a sponge bath. Its not really nessesary to give a full bath now if she is bedridden. There is a line of wonderful products that dont require water (waterless shampoos ect) you can find them online, medical supply stores and sometimes drugstores like Ekard or walgreens depending on where you live. Some will even order it for you just ask the manager. Im sorry they left you with such a gap but like Gail said call a supervisor and tell them you need help. Hope it gets better sweetie hang in there!

Does your mom need to have a bath or will a sponge bath do? My dad hasn't been in a shower or bathtub for 20 years (no, he doesn't stink -- I have a very sensitive nose). He been doing sponge baths for decades now and seems to be fine.

I'm sorry to hear that elder services has left such a gap. Two weeks is a long time. It doesn't seem right. Is there a supervisor you can speak to?