My DH is adjusting very well to the nursing home after 2 months. He has a private room, his TV, books, pictures, and his own walker which is sturdier than those supplied by the home. He has settled into a routine that in cludes walks outside when the weather is nice, and I get to take him out to eat occasionally. When he entered, he did not want his name on the door, today he asked for a name plate, stating that he was going to be there for a long time.

When I leave, he walks me down to the door to the lobby. Today, I wasn't halfway through the door before he took off to talk with a buddy that he shares his books with. It made me a little sad, like he didn't need me anymore.

Will there come a time when he won't need me to visit or care whether I come or not? I still need him.

Thanks, Bobcat. I do realize that he will always need me and I am so grateful to the staff who patiently give him the care he needs, even when he is difficult. I realize he is building his life there and that I need to build my life here.

Sweetheart, he will need you even if he doesn't "know" it. Please don't be hurt when a team of professionals in a facility built for the purpose seems to be able to do what you could not, all by yourself in your apartment.

Believe me, he needs you. Without your judgement and sacrifice, he would not be doing so well. I am happy for both of you that this is working out.