Hello,
The Hindu Philosophy says that man has only got his rights over duties and not over its results.
So, with this philosophy in mind I have been taking care of my mother and also try to impress my wife with it. But at times I am quite at loss to keep my feelings in stead and just go doing it with a detached sense.
sanju

Sanju, you have read from others that you are not alone with having to be ditached at times.I have had to do this many times.If ou do not you become so lost in this caregiving.You forget who you really are and what you are and not able to do.This is a difficult disease to deal with.But you do have to step outside the role of caregiving and allow a place for more positve events to come to mind.We do what we have to do to survive.

Sanju,

You have hit on the of the most difficult things a caregiver has to do. To remain loving and concerned, yet for your own sanity remaining somewhat detached is a must. As I watched the painful progression of this awful disease (Alzheimer's) with my Mom I had to step back and tell myself this is not my dear, sweet Mom acting this way it is the disease. So many days I spent crying and cursing this disease. One day I realized that being a little detached made the process more bearable.

Vicki

Hi Sanju. I too sometimes go through my day detached. Just trying to get through what I have to do without thinking about it. I think that's the only way I can stay sane sometimes.I understand what you are saying though.I will add you and your family to my prayers.