Thank you all so much for your prayers, condolences, kind words and support. In the small world of my mind I’ve never encountered so much love from so many people. Maybe I should get out more (of my mind and house). I suspect that our common bond as caregivers with someone with Alzheimer’s is one that transcends space, time and personalities. I’ve never lost a father before so it has been difficult for me to sort out my emotions. It feels as if a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders, then as soon as I think about that, I wish it were there once again. My mom is having a harder time than me, not only because it was the loss of her husband of 66 years, but her dementia troubles the peaceful waters of her memories and distorts her grieving process. I been listening to a song over and over that I heard for the first time today on a NOVA program by a group called the Eels. It is entitled “Things the grandchildren should know” . I’m blown away by it. It captures my life story; my loner ways, even my dog walks. There are a few lines that cause me to tear up each time I hear it. “I turned out just like my father, though I swore I never would. Now I can say that I have love for him. I never really understood what it must have been like for him living inside his head. I feel like he’s here with me now, even though he’s dead”. I’m including a link for you to listen to it on Youtube. You may have to cut and paste it. Again thank you from the bottom of my broken heart. Michael
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HZACwCFsjlU

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Micheal. Thank you,,for sharing the experience and the video. The Eels were unknown to me. You and Sue are settling in to a quiet not familiar for many years. You have my heart felt sympathy and empathy. Please continue here when you feel a need to talk about it.