I was just wondering if any one can tell me how they have handled xmas presents for the nursing home staff - there are about 13 total (counting all 3 shifts)that take care of the ALS Unit. Last yr I gave them all cards and treats for all three shifts from my father and $100 to the home. They have a program where all the money collected from families is matched by the facility and divided among them. The longest employeed gets more. Any way I was thinking of giving to a staff employee that seems to care best for my father the $100 and cards for the rest. There are some employees frankly I won't give the time of day. Any ideas?

Im with Mae on this matter give it in secret if you really want to show your gratitude, but like Torp said it is against the NH policy here also to give a gift to a CG, one way around this matter ask the special one what time they get off work so you may gift them off the premises (out of the parking lot also that is considered NH property) or if they trust you ask for their address and tell them you want to send a christmas card

When I knew somone was giving my mother good care becuse she wanted to and caredI would have kissed the ground she walked on.Sadly that is not the norm ,in our area.Too many are just lazy and go through the motions.Too many had been out partying the night before.Kinda forgot they had obligations to others the next day

I gave these gifts in secret.The treats were out in the open.

There were 2 people who gave my mother their undivided attention.They received gifts.We took a box of choc, and cookies for the general staff.Too many times they look for something from you but give nothing to your loved one.Always someone waiting with their hands out.

Our LO's facility has a policy that staff isn't permitted to accept personal gifts from residents or their families. They could lose their jobs over it.

If we want to give a "bonus" it must go to a fund, like yours. We can bring treats, etc. to be shared by all at any time.

I understand exactly what you're saying. The employees know the policy, though, so understand. A heartfelt note of appreciation in her Christmas card, especially if you go into specifics, will mean a lot and keep her out of trouble with her employers.

Hi Mary Jo. Since you have already set a precedent, it might be "sticky" to give money to one and not the others... Perhaps you could reduce the amount to the home to $50 and slip your favorite caregiver a $50 gift certificate to a popular restaurant?