i have come to the disision that i give up. i cant take care of grandma anymore. today i decided to start looking for a job, i also enrolled in a class at the college. i just cant do it anymore, since i have been back from my mini vacation (my brothers wedding) my aunt has not been over at all, grandma is driving everywhere and will not let me run the errends anymore. auntie says let her drive n if she doesnt want to take her pills dont force her. i love my grandma but she is becomming a very mean old lady and without any support from my aunt i just cant do it any more. i've spent the majority of the summer taking care of her and i feel so bad saying this but me moving on and leaving everything up to auntie might be the best thing to do. i know grandma will get worse because she wont take her pills and stuff but maybe then auntie will realize everything i did do, FOR FREE.

thank you everyone on here that listened to my rants, it was great to have someone here to listen and offer advice.

Ymyers, It is for the best, that you move on. Your auntie clearly thinks she calls the shots, so let her take the risk... Believe me the risk is real that someone will eventually be held legally accountable for your granny and I can promise you that your auntie is NOT going to speak up to say that you were following HER instructions.

It actually is true that if your Grandmother hasn't been declared incompetent, she can choose not to take her pills but her doctor should be told these things.

The driving is another matter. I was never really clear if the doctor didn't want her driving because of a permanent mental/ physical disability or if it was because of the side effects certain meds have that he wants her to take, really doesn't matter. You don't want to be there if she hurts herself or someone else while disobeying the doctor's orders.

You can't do this job without cooperation AND compensation. It is Auntie's job now. Stick to your guns honey. I am so sorry that auntie and granny didn't realize what a blessing they had while they had it.

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i have come to the disision that i give up. i know grandma will get worse because she wont take her pills and stuff but maybe then auntie will realize everything i did do, FOR FREE.

thank you everyone on here that listened to my rants, it was great to have someone here to listen and offer advice.

LOUD CHEERS, thanks, I'm in the same boat. Taking care of my mother was the most enlightening servive I ever gave anyone in my life, taking care of Dad is not possible. Period, end of story.

Though I might be ranting here for years yet and I'm sure that somehow it will bear fruit in my immortal soul. I say NO!And I say NO NOW! Enough is enough. If I get the way Dad is they can shoot me.

Good for you hun its a WISE person that admits the task is too much to handle.
You are one brave person, dont EVER doubt that.
And ditto please do let us know how things turn out for you, we are always here for you

Best of luck to you, dear. You tried your very best and NO ONE can ask for more from anyone else than that! Please pop in and let us know how you are doing and how your gramma is faring...
Many blessings to you...