shortly after my mom's funeral what had been a close family was divided by hurt feelings. six siblings. there was a misunderstanding after the reading of the will and my brother, who we all knew as laid back and fun blew sky high. my parents were simple people and had simple things, nothing to fight over, if there ever is a material possession worth fighting for. he hasn't talked to my oldest sister or me since then. we have tried to make peace but he won't have anything to do with it. it's very hard on my sister since she lives right next door to him. yesterday another sister called me to tell me my brother had had a serious accident at work. but for a twist of fate or the grace of God it could have been fatal. my point here is, life is fragile, even for the most healthy. it doesn't take illness to end it in a heartbeat. we are hoping this close call will wake him up and open his heart to leave the anger behind. we want to be a complete family again.

Diana congrats on being named hubby's legal guardian.

This has been a long road & battle for you. I'm glad the judge saw his children for what they are, greedy.

It saddens me to see time & time again how family reacts when faced with illnesses & are only focused on the money & getting their share.

After 4 years facing my husband family today I was named his legal guardian. I am so relieved and sad at the same time. He was a good father but his children went to the court just to ask for "their money". None asked about their father health or visitation rights. They told the Judge they were "the heirs" and they wanted financial reports from me.
I came to this Forum when this problem started and I am glad I did. Everybody offered the help and support that was fundamental to help me face this ordeal.
God bless you all.

Happy, I wish the best for Fri. Sometimes it takes a major problem to bring people back.

Good luck with this situation Happy. Family dynamics can be soooooooo trying. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and yours.

well, yesterday i called my brother and he didn't screen me out. he answered the phone and talked to me. he actually talked in full sentences and was nice. my oldest sister, who he was the maddest at was due to bring him dinner and she showed up while he was on the phone so he had to go, but for him to let her into his house was also a milestone. my second sister had gone there and had a talk with him about how short life is and it was time to let go and be a family again. hopefully this is the first step. with his stubborn pride i feel that it was a big step. who knows where it will lead but at least the door was left open! god bless my sister's respectful but no nonsense intervention! we will all be at a wedding on friday for my nephew and bro will have to wear sweats to it because his body is too swollen but he will be there. first time under the same roof since january. wish us well. mar, i pray that things will work out for you and your bro. how heartbreaking. life is never long enough for grudges.

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Hap, I understand how hard this is. My brother still has not talked to me. I often wonder if we would ever be a family again. I guess the next time I see him will be at the closing if I get the date. I hope this makes your brother realize just how important life and family is.

Hap

Sorry for what you are going thru & hope your bro recovers quickly.

family disputes before & after the death of LO are common. It doesn't matter the value of items someone is always upset because this person got what they wanted or they felt they deserved more.

Since Mom's passing, my bro & family rarely have contact with me. His wife is still very hostile because of how things were divided. It bothers me, but that's an issue she needs to deal with.

Try not to waste energy on things you can't change & move forward with your life.

sorry t hear this.Hope your brother will use this to allow himself to be kind to his family and let there be peace.

thank you bob.

Hap, I hope your brother has a full recovery in body and in spirit.