In all fairness I need to open a topic on the lost relationships with their spouse when caring for a parent in the home. While caring for Milly my husband felt ackward having sex with his Mom in the house. it did not help that she would get up in the middle of the night and end up standing by our bed. Trust me an AD parent standing at your bed works faster than a cold shower.

Caring for the parent in the home can also take most all your energy so when it comes to an intimate time with your spouse, you just can't mustard up the interest. This can and often does have a chilling evect on a marriage when caring for a parnet in the home for a long period of time. It has broken up more than one marriage.

Here you do have to put a little work into it. A couple caring for a parent needs to take the extra time to steal private time together. I am not just talking about for a romantic fling but the time for the important things a couple does together that helps to build a marriage on a daily bases. Make sure you find time to go to that private corner to just talk to each other. To have those pleasent interesting converstaions that a couple has. Go to a room and lock the door if you have to but find time and a place to do so.

Sometimes though a marriage is broken before they even bring the LO in to care for. These are the sadest situations as I hav e seen wives caring for their in laws in hopes that it will keep their marriage together. I have seen couples caring for a LO to avoid their own problems. I have also seen the role of caregiving to strength a marriage and family.

I can imagine, Edyth Ann! The energy drain alone would kill romance, I imagine.

What's the answer....aside from a 60-room house and servants?

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Puffin