Tuesday - got a call from the Nurse/Social Worker (the one who is supposed to handle the day to day and non emergency stuff. Seems as if the toliets in the my Grandmother's house were overflowing/not flushing. The caregiver told her that she knew how to cut the water to the toliet off at the wall. So my Grandmother demanded that she do that. Then the caregiver realized that my Grandmother in her unusual thinking figured it is turned off it is fixed. The caregiver snuck in the other room used her cell phone to notify the health care agency, the agency called the social worker who called my Grandmother to see if she could help with the problem. My Grandmother informed her that she wears Depends now and that she doesn't need a toliet. The social worker explained to her that yes she did need the toliet for not only her use but for the caregivers. My Grandmother's response was again she wears Depend
's and she doesn't care if the caregivers don't have a place to use the facilities. So the social worker calls me and says what are you going to do about this? I didn't call my Grandmother, I just called the plumber told him what was going on and told him that he was to fix it no matter what she says. It is temp. fix. The sewer line is colapsing. So it will take about 4 - 7 days to dig it up replace it. She will have to go somewhere else for 4 - 7 days. How in the world am I going to force her to go? I know it is a health issue at this point. Will there be anyone later that will say that I violated her civil rights or anything else? HELP! My mother says she will do whatever I think that we can.

Hi Janeen,
It is time to get guardianship of your grandmother. She will become more and more difficult to deal with. By handling these emergencies you are just postponing the enevitable. At some point she will put herself in serious jeopardy and then you will need to take action. Contact an elder law attorney to examine your options.

Vicki

Hi Janeen,

How about a couple chemical toilets in the meantime until you can decide what to do.

Can buy from an RV supply store or large camping store.

Could also put a commode in grands room with a removable pot.

Sharon

One thing you have to do is not ask people if you can do whatever if your grandma objects. She has a disease that effects her cognitive ability to reason or make judgements. You also need to either pass all these calls on to your Mom or get guardianship of your grandma. All that is happening by you taking care of the little emergencies is allowing things to go on as they are. This is not an easy thing to do. In all views it is your Mom that has the legal abilities and responsibilities to make these things happen. Your Mom has the POA, your grandma needs someone to take charge and it sounds like that person will need to get guardianship.

Tell your mom to come help wth this like yesterday. I am serious.This is he mother and she needs to have a more hands on approach.Thisgrand mother is headed for disaster that your mom will have to deal with .An ounce of prevention.