Hubby had a good checkup a week ago, cholesterol way down, blood pressure good, risk for heart attack low. But I still worry. He is so tired all the time and spends most of the day in his recliner with a book and TV. When I ask him how he is doing, many times he just shakes his head, not doing so well. He is unsteady on his feet walking across the room. Although he talks a lot about the past, he still looks ahead, mainly when he wins the lotto and can buy me the house he thinks I should have (and don't want). What's going on? Is this a general decline, just wearing out? Is this tiredness and sleeping just getting ready for that final sleep? I'm scared.

Oh Hun Im so glad it brought you a little comfort...I feel so bad for you dealing with all your dealing with and I just wish I had a magic wand to wave over you but I know its not possible... all we have left is words...sometimes they hit the mark, sometimes not...know that you will forever be in my thoughts...you are an angel, this, I am certain

Hi Bunny. I'm just getting to my computer after being off for several days with extreme fibromyalgia pain. Have spent the last few days in my recliner, but now feel up to doing a few things again.

Your reply brought me loads of comfort. I realize I just need to learn to accept the sleep periods, not worry, and do some things of my own at that time, like sewing, computer, or reading. I will concentrate on my genealogy research and writing this winter. Right now it is snowing and streets are icy, so haven't been out yet, may get out tomorrow. The subject of Thanksgiving came up this morning and I just informed hubby that we are going to my brother's. He likes my brother and family, and his wife's family, so no problem. I'm finding that I make more decisions and just let him know rather than ask him. Picking and choosing what I ask and what I tell him seems to be working. I think he is glad to let me make decisions for him in some areas. More letting go of things.

thanks again for all your caring.

Aww Farmgirl...Im so sorry your scared. My heart goes out to you...They do tend to start sleeping alot especially when theres no will left to speak of...My mil is sleeping more and more (when shes not raging of course) but I noticed this subtle change in her too. Their tired of the fight is my best guess and sleeping offers them some solice. I can just sit here and watch when mil is awake and its heartbreaking...she is mulling over things shaking her head and just generally depressed...so when I see the sleep come on I am relieved in a way that shes not going over these issues in her mind like she does when shes awake...his worries for you how sweet...just keep assuring him that isnt nessesary....Your in my thoughts baby truly...