Something new has cropped up with my husband. I have noticed that sometimes he seems to have difficulty figuring out things. Example: While driving to the store, he turned on the turn signal in the middle of the block although we were going our usual straight route. When I mentioned it to him, he stopped the car and seemed to have difficulty figuring out what to do next. Lucky, no traffic behind us, small town. He finally got going again. A few days later on the same street he wandered into the oncoming lane, again, no traffic. As soon as I spoke to him he got back where he belonged. He seemed to have trouble putting up his pills last weekend, trying to decide what went in which compartment. I will watch for more of this and bring it to his doctor's attention if need be. I am so sad seeing this deterioration in an intelligent, highly competent man. I dread the day when he must go to a different living situation because I can't take care of him with my own problems with fibromyalgia and arthritis. Where is the comfort??

His reasoner is broken & you can't fix it.

Farmgirl, we worried about your husband's driving a year and a half ago...
http://eldercare.infopop.cc/eve/forums/a/tpc/f/3326...491067812#1491067812

Please take steps quickly before things go too far and someone gets hurt!!

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I am so sad seeing this deterioration in an intelligent, highly competent man. I dread the day when he must go to a different living situation because I can't take care of him with my own problems with fibromyalgia and arthritis. Where is the comfort??

My heart breaks for you both, farmgirl. Perhaps now is the time to find someone to startcoming in and helping out - even BETTER if they DRIVE!!

I hope you can draw some comfort in the loving care you are providing despite your own health issues and emotions! You have steadfastly tried to help him retain what he has always had as long as possible. It is comforting to me to know there are folks like you out there.
Bless you!!

Farmgirl, I know getting hubby to stop driving is like pulling teeth, but he is a danger to you, himself and others.My husband would not give up driving so when at a doctors visit I brought this up and the doctor hit the fan with my husband.He told him to stop driving on his own ot he, the doctor, would call Harrisburh himself and make it a not to nice experience.My husband tried to call his lawyer to see if he could fight this, no way as the doctor was very animent about this.He told him he could kill others because he was not incontrol of his thought proces while driving.I was so glad to have the doctor intervene for me.This is very selfish for anyone to drive when they are unable.

Farmgirl-Reading your post gives me chills up my spine. Do you have a drivers liscence? Can you start doing the driving. Tell him the truth if you can or tell him you'd like to start doing more of the driving. Please don't let him drive until you have seen his Dr. and discussed it with him. Could he have made a mistake on the meds that you weren't aware of?Can you volunteer to do the meds at the same time as your own? Please just because you(he) has been lucky twice that there was no traffic don't count on it even if you are in a small town. Please, please make sure this is looked into before an accident happens. This must be so stressful for you on top of your personal health problems.I hope things improve for you and hubby soon. Please come back and let us know how you are doing. Gypsy