Bobcat, I am taking your suggestion right away. Today this aide is at home doing nothing and I got 4 calls in the morning. I answered the first one and told her I was dealing with H. Half hour later she called again and I didn't answered. Left 3 messages asking if I was ok!!! Called back, told her I was sleeping and at that moment I was preparing lunch for H but she tried to keep talking. I am getting truly angry... no good.

65F? Nope, cool and damp was 72F. 65F is freezing, shivering and hypotermic. Right now is 76F but I am in the metro area, here isn't as humid as the mountains.
This one is the first in the road to my sisters home:
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I guess she is worth the trouble, if she will at least be there, with him. Here's a trick for you. (not that you or I would really do this) Tell her you are having problems with your phone, but you will call her at sheduled times. Maybe start with every 30 minutes and then every hour, maybe she will get some confidence in herself that way and then only call if she really needs you.

Try to schedule your "rest time" when the other one is there. I know there are always reasons why this wouldn't work, I don't know if I could ever tell one of Mom's CGs I would be out of touch, although I have to turn my phone off at the doctor's or dentist's office, and I let them know that and tell them I will check messages as soon as I am done. If they need me, I'll get back with them as soon as possible.

When is it too cool and damp for you? 65 degrees?

Thank you all for your concern. I am using Albuterol, an antibiotic and Zyrtec. I went to my Mom's and it got too cool and damp so I returned home early to find H all soiled and smelly. After begging him, he gave me the underwear but not the shirt. Seems as it will be a long evening.

As you said Bobcat, this lady is the same one that stays alone with H and never call me to ask anything. I beg her to pretend I wasn't here and stop asking things but didn't worked.

The other one is a pain in the... ears..., no matter what I am doing she calls every 5 minutes talking, and talking usually about her problems, and repeating the same stories again and again. Sometimes I am with clients and need to ask her to stop calling to get another one in a few minutes, or as today, I may be at my homeotwn (an hour and a half drive) and she called to tell me that he was soiled. But I can't fire her, is pretty dificult to find this kind of help and as you all know my H is very difficult to deal with.

Diana, sorry to hear this is still bothering you. Hugs and courage, honey. I am curious. You go out without Roberto, and someone stays with him while you are gone, right? They decide to give him juice or not when you aren't there. So can you tell them that you really aren't there, even if they see you, they are to act as if you are not really there.

If they can't do it that way, you may have to really leave. Go somewhere you can rest and tell them you have an important meeting (with sweet dreams) and will be out of touch. Asthma is scary stuff.

Dear Diana,
The most important thing is to take care of yourself. You cannot be the good caregiver to Roberto if you are not well.

Even though the aides are annoying you, you must let go and let them do their job and let yourself get healthy.

I hope you will be feeling better soon!

DianaT, Sorry to hear you are still having problems with the asthma.
Do you use an inhaler for it?I know one helped me when I had an attack.
Honey, if I were you, I would pack my houshold things in boxes for now.
That way there is no temptation for Roberto.
My mother got into things but never destructive.I did what they called baby proofed her bedroom.That is where the worst would happen.But it was because she felt the room was her prisoner and I was the warden.Before her dementia, she loved the room.It was her place to go to have time for herself.

Hi!!!!!!!!

Sorry, I didn't saw this message until today.
I had a lousy week with asthma. Even spent time watching TV. Yuck!!!!!!!! I just watch CSI and Law and Order once in a while but this week I even watched a few reruns. This thing was almost gome but I went to a meeting and returning home was raining and very humid. That was enough to start the coughing again.
Today I feel better but have a meeting at noon and need to do some errands.

Also, Roberto is driving me crazy moving everything from place to place. Last week I double the aids time to get some rest but one of them talks too much and the other one was asking permission even to give H a glass of juice (which she is doing for the last 5 years) and I am not in the mood, so I stay with him alone.

Don't like to feel tired, is a clear message from my body to get some rest and I can't get it.