My 89 year old father who is blind and fairly immobile had his ears cleaned out at the beginning of this week and ever since he has been telling everyone the most lurid sexual stories, most of which could not possibly be true, but it is clear that he thinks that they are. His libido has also taken a significant upswing. He now wants to go to church (as he always has) but will likely keep telling the sexual stories once he gets there.

Incidently there has been no change in meds or diet

We had some of that with my MIL. It was earlier in her decline: sexual remarks about a man (within his earshot) young enough to be her grandson, telling very juvenile dirty jokes to her children and grandchildren, etc. I don't think I could possibly describe how uncharacteristic this was.

I think it's just part of the dementia disease, although I have read that Sinemet (Carbidopa-Levodopa, a commonly prescribe medication for Parkinson's tremors) can sometimes cause or contribute to obsessive behaviors including sexual.

She gradually settled down, but we also thought that perhaps limiting her exposure to sexual content in her entertainment might help as well. I can't say that it helped, but certainly it couldn't have hurt.

Oy BC not for nothin but...
God bless that man's Mama! *whistle*
Ok smack me back into the corner Sorry Ray just a lil Friday nite lite for the girls!

She got over it. Like you said, no foul no harm. Caught me off guard Just had a "drama" moment I guess. Everybody is just human. These days I only have somebaody pinch me in my dreams, (but in my dreams it isn't a 87 year old cancer patient out of it on oxycodone). More like

(sorry Ray, that did a world of good for my libido)

seriously, sex doesn't disappear for our elders. It is a fine line and deserves a thread. Daddy started groping Mom, men seem to express the physical more than women. Mom loves a hug. Physical contact means a lot.

I think I got something here in the way of an idea
Online order of business cards printed with the persons first name and "to please be patient because they have Alzheimer’s."

http://www.vistaprint.com/busi...iness+Cards&ad=broad

Or if you have a capable printer you can also go to an office supply store and get your own blank business cards and do it yourself

as an added FYI the purple ribbon represents the fight for AD research to end the disease

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The CG Dad pinched was really bent out of shape about it even though she had cared for him 8 months.

What?! Seriously?!
Ok thats no CG thats a prude! Ok ok IMHO
See I know its the disease not the person I could NEVER get bent outta shape over ANYTHING thats said or done to me, they cant help it the edit button is broke. I honestly laugh it off hell the guy that asked me the outrageous question I laughed at and told him if he asked that one more time I was gonna wash his mouth out with soap! He just smiled no harm no foul

BG, I never did find the site for the card about, " My LO has dementia, please have patience with us." or what ever. I saw it at my mother's doc's office.

I looked at all sorts of sites. Please anyone, and all. If you know where to find this card, post it.

Ray, we can suggest the lanquage and you could make up a sign to tote where ever you and Dad go.

"Dad speaks first and thinks later. (or maybe doesn't think). Please know he admires you. That is not a bad thing..."

The CG Dad pinched was really bent out of shape about it even though she had cared for him 8 months. She knew his meds had gotten heavy on th pain killers, but she yakked on about being a married woman and shouldn't have to take ths 'abuse'.

Sorry...Like he was going to get out of bed and chase her or something???

Oh you poor thing I have 2 count um 2 patients in the last month sexual as all get out I almost lost my pants to one guy serving him breakfast when he grabbed an yanked! The other one got right beside me an grabbed me on my butt (I wont EVEN tell you what he asked me ) and all Dementia related its got nothing to do with meds and everything to do with the disease and it always happens in the latter mid stage of the disease,
If your going to go out get some business cards printed up with my LO has Dementia please disregard insults
Hey BC you still got that website with the cards its been a minute.

Hello Ray, Welcome to ECO. I hope you will take a moment to introduce yourself and the situation with your father in more detail in the New Care giver's Meeting Room. It just means new to ECO, not whether you are new to caregiving. If your father has dementia, do you know the cause? There are many possibilities.

Often there there are occurences that seem to be related because they happen close together. Sometimes they are related and sometimes it is a coincidence. Ears fixed, ,,,now speaking unusually.

Thing is, dementia is a symptom of brain damage. The cause needs to be determined by a neurologist. Nonetheless, the damage can occur anywhere. Maybe in your Dad's case, it is in a place that controls impulse. He might say something that he never would have dreamed to say in the past. My dad pinched a caregiver on the bottom more than once. He was 87, but his thought process was disrupted more by pain killers for his cancer than by Alz or strokes, etc.

I am thinking he speaks without the filter of social acceptability. We learn what is acceptable and what is not and it can be forgotten far more easily than it was learned.

There are techniques to use in such situations that might help if you are close at hand. Be aware and ready to change the subject (redirection) quickly. That is the best.

Again, if you can fill us in about his situation, well, the more we know, the more likely someone can help.

ECO welcomes you, Bobcat..