Just read your post regarding the passing of your MIL. My heart goes out to you and your husband at this time. You have cared for her for so long and through some very tough times.

My prayers and thoughts are with you now

DIL, i too want to express my sorrow at the ladies passing.Her new journey with her god has begun.You and hubby were with here when she needed you.
Not an easy task to go through a loved ones belongings.So many have such good memories associated with them.
You and hubby will need time to adjust .My prayers are with you

DIL, the gold is the Memories of her at her finest. That is what she would want of you, I am sure. I still feel really strange about my Dad's stuff, mainly because Mom is still in the house.

Bro was reluctant to do anything with his clothes for fear of upsetting her. I gently asked her one day, "What would he want, that his shirts dry rotted in the closet or that they were of use to some one in need?" She wanted them to go to those in need. It was really her want. She just didn't ask this of us, because she thought we would be disturbed. She said, " Your father's memory is here in my heart. Not in the closet."

i enjoyed meeting you tonight in the chat room. Once again so sorry about your mil.
You did a good job taking care of her. Now take good care of yourself. Hope to see you in the chat room soon.

Hello all!
Just an update...my H and I went out of state for a few days after funeral...felt the need to return early, just as a habit because we always did that before. I kept finding things that before I would have bought for her, things she collected. We are trying to go thru her things and realized that we really need to get rid of things we haven't used or touched in years...she was a packrat and I am a packrat apprentice. Not anymore! I actually threw away clothes that I kept thinking "one day I will be able to fit into" but realized that I can always buy new ones from this century!

My H and I can't seem to sleep all the way thru the night, he feels guilty for getting rid of her things and I keep telling him that she does not care about them anymore...which would you prefer? Gold and precious metals in your own personal mansion or costume jewelry and collectibles? Me, I would prefer the mansion

We found alot of old pics of her and her husband, what a fine looking couple! She was pretty. That is how I will remember her. It is just hard, we haven't cooked in our own home in so long we don't even have pots and pans at our home because we took them to her house. We have been eating out...and gaining weight.

I miss her. I thank everyone for your kind words and thanks especially to Bobcat for setting this up for me and for suggesting I write here, sorry for writing so much but it helps too...

DIL, I remember very clearly when my G'Pa talked to people who were not physically present. Somehow, when he started this, it was only to people who had already "gone on". He only spoke to people still in this world, if they were in the room with him.

I have no doubt , that your MIL and Her Husband are reunited now.

What a character, to tell Jesus to sit and wait.!!?? She must have been a wonderful person to know.

DIL, Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. Sincerely, TK in Delaware

DIL, Sending blessings to you for this difficult passage from caregiving. Your story about her telling Jesus to sit and wait while she spoke to her husband first was priceless.
May they revel in the happiness of their reunion.

Thank you Bobcat for setting this up.

MIL kept telling her mama to hurry up, then she pointed and said "Jesus sit down right there and wait" then she said her husband's name and told him she was dying, he passed away in 1992.

She was diagnosed with renal failure in 2003 and had a heart attack that required open heart surgery. She had dementia and at times acted like she hated me and then the next second was perfectly normal.

Before her heart attack, I went to her house everyday after work cause my husband was working nights and would hang out and me & her went to church together every week.

All of you have been so helpful because I have been reading this forum for a while as a guest and signed up when I learned about the MRSA diagnosis.

Thank you.

So sorry about your MILs passing . Hugs and prayers to you and your family.(thanks Bobcat for putting this down here. )Gypsy

So sorry to hear about you MIL. Sympathy and prayers go out to you and your family