After hubby was gone my family started constantly trying to get me to sell. I am glad that I had seen in a message about not making decisions for 1 year. I decided on the reverse mortgage because I will live here till the end. Only if I am gone for 1 year can they make the mortgage due and payable. I worked it out with my oldest children always to make sure I am never out of the house longer than 6 months. No matter what dementiaa or whatever. They agreed. I saw Mar go through all the problems and work of selling the house she lived in for so long. Thanks Mar for your help. You were strong enough to do that but I couldn't.
For so long I would look in at what everyone writes but I did not post. I think a lot of people do that. It is hard to put your emotions up front but thanks to those that do. It helps the rest of us.

Mar,

Enjoy your time with Dan.
I also am lucky to have a close relationship with my eldest son, Ric. Though he is near the oregon border he calls me everyday and keeps me up on everything that is happening. I am also blessed that his wife Tamara also keeps in touch with me. They have 1 son Noah at 12 is a Godsen and she has 3 other daughters and another son all of them are over 18. They get along for the most part with my son. Only my Grandson Noah lives at the house. all the rest are out on there own more or less. It gets hard for them sometimes. My dtr-in-law is a social worker and my son is self-employed but hurt his back so he is now back in college to get certified in sociology. He loves it. I have so many blessings. My step children and I are friends. The only problem is our son, Marc I live with. The rest of my family keeps in touch and always asking me to visit etc. I finally told my older brother what was going on with my youngest son. His son-in-law is a cop in the next city from me and a very nice guy. If I need help when I go to evict him in March, that is who I will call.
enough about me and mine.
I love this beautiful weather 58 and sunny. great
have fun.

Mar, don't forget the sunscreen!

I would advise anyone to wait at least a year before making important decisions. I had no choice but to move and while we are making it work it is still painful when I think of the old home. Terri I know you can be as strong as me. We really do not know our own strength till we are sometimes forced into a situation. Right now I do not want to continue renting and not having my own place. I'm not sure what will happen as I cannot buy here and would have to go down South Jersey or even another state. There are just to many decisions and if I am not totally comfortable when I look down the shore in April I will ask if we can have another year here. I just take it day by day. Right now I'm just looking forward to the Fla. vacation....Look for me at the Daytona 500 with Dan. I'm very lucky that at 21 Dan wants me to be the one to go with him to the race. Life is too short so I will go and make some memories for both of us.

you were wise not to make an serious decisions right away.Time allows us to think more clearly.
Glad to hear you can remain in your home.
You have been thrown many curve balls along the way.I do hope things begin to improve for you.