I am furious...behind everyone's back, my sister put her name on my mother's bank account after my mom had a stroke. Mom barely recognizes anyone, let alone understands financial issues! Is her signature on the bank's paperwork legal? I set mom's account up so any change would have to be done in person. I also had been getting her statements to my house for over 10 years. Now my sister is getting them. The bank is aware of their screw up...this is the second time this happened!! (The first time they removed her name and supposedly red flagged the account, but some moron let it slip through again.) I read about financial abuse of the elderly and this seems like a classic case...any suggestions of what can be done? Thank you

Hun this isnt legal, your mom would have had to be present and give consent.
Its as simple as that
Oops I hit PN by mistake....

Personally me Id go down to this bank and withdraw everything and shut it down if this is indeed the 2nd time this occurred.
Id also make the manager find out who exactly bypassed bank protocol by putting your sis on this acct with the red flagging so I could see them fired especially if there is any money withdraws since this time.

Thank you so much... you made my day and I agree with you. However, I can't take her money out because my name was never properly added to her account like she wanted, and STILL thinks is on it and always has been. Another screw-up by this 1/2-A. bank !! I want to get a lawyer to get the bank to take her name off. Another obstacle I have is that she lives in Florida and I am up north - where the account/ bank is. And another sister lives with her- who was in on this scam - refuses to let me speak to her on the phone and will not let me visit!! She even moved her 2 years ago, and I had to hired a private investigator to find her new address !! Can you believe this? What a family! But now, I feel like I failed her because she only trusted me to watch her money...its not a large amount...but its all she has. I can't believe what vultures my siblings are turning into!I think with all the evidence I have, it would make a H. of an financial elderly abuse case. I read how trusted family members are the worst culprits and prey on the weak or disabled parent...this is making me sick! All I keep thinking of is my poor mom...this person is her least favorite kid - with good reason...which is probably why she did it. She is mean, nasty and jealous. Thanks for your help...this forum is awesome!!

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And another sister lives with her- who was in on this scam - refuses to let me speak to her on the phone and will not let me visit!!

You can file a complaint so they have to justify the reasoning behind barring your pc's and visitation.

If this was my mother this BS would stop now...
Just like my MIL's family who has less than genuine intent trying to see her so she can sign docs regarding property...she is not allowed ANY visitors without me being present period.
I have stipulated this with the facility she is at I even had a run in not too long ago with a HC worker who happened to somehow be related to my MIL...good thing this facility called me and when I got down there the lil pisser had left **wish I could have got me a piece of that one to make an example out of**
Anyhow if your as clean as all that they have no right to bar your entrance from your mom so the next chance I got if I was in your shoes would be to show up down there go straight to the local PD and ask to be escorted to your moms residence to witness this.
Its either that or you lawyer up and make it legal.
The question I have here is are you willing to step up and take mom with you because if your not willing to do this then all of this is a waste of time because if your mom is being abused financially by your sisters then leaving mom in this situation wont help you know what I mean?
Like the ole sayin goes "when the cats away mice do play"

Hello...Thank you for your reply...sounds like this sorta crap happens alot when there is something to be gained. I agree totally with you about stepping up to the plate, I would love nothing more than to be with my mom. I was the one who took care of her up here for years, while everyone else went off and had "lives." I did it out of love...mom and I have always been extremely close, as I am with my father...who lives up here. I do a lot of the care-taking for him, too and get backstabbed for it! I know this is a jealousy/ money issue with my lazy siblings. I am currently looking to purchase a 2cd. home in Florida, especially with the market down there being what it is. I would like nothing more than to spring that on them without warning! HA!! I am keeping it under my hat for now. I am seeing a lawyer about all this tomorrow. I spoke to another attorney, and he said there is a way I can freeze that account if I want. I may look into that, too. I am so mad at that stupid bank..if they didn't let this slip by FOR A SECOND TIME...I wouldn't be going through all this aggravation, expense, and sleepless nights! Can you sue for stupidity?? Again, Thank you so much...I truly appreciate all your support.

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sounds like this sorta crap happens alot when there is something to be gained

Uh yes Iv gone to bat more than a few times on this matter I dont take kindly to no one being used on my watch.
Money is for our LO's healthcare and living it does not belong to anyone BUT our LO's PERIOD.

Can ya tell this sticks in my craw somethin fierce?!
I HATE abusers

I hear you...the problem I have is that all these siblings are loosers who are now kissing butt to this sister, hoping to get a piece of the money when Mom is gone!!! Is this sick, or what? That's how stupid they are, as it was when Mom passed, legally, it would have been divided equally, now it all goes to her, unless I sue for elderly financial abuse and go after that stupid bank. What a mess. All I can think of how I promised mom not to let anyone get control of her money except me, and how she trust me...now I feel like I failed her. What I am concern about now is that this sister is in a bad financial state, and I know she can take money from that account. Even though she knows I am watching her, she still may do it to get herself out of hock.

Shes in hock???
Then my only advice is to go get mom ASAP otherwise she'll be at the mercy of the state if you allow this to go on.
**shaking head**